Texting asymmetry score
Four measures combined into one score from −1 to +1 describing which side is putting in more of the texting effort — with a wide "dead even" band on purpose.
No single number can honestly answer "who likes who more" — but four narrower, measurable questions combined can describe something real about texting effort specifically: who starts the day (weighted 30%), who double-texts (25%), who writes more (20%), and who replies faster (25%). The result lands somewhere between −1 and +1, and anything within roughly ±0.15 is called dead even on purpose, because most real chats land close to balanced and forcing a "winner" out of noise-level differences would turn a measurement into a horoscope.
Example
A score of 0.004 is, for all practical purposes, zero — the four underlying measures are pulling in different directions and mostly cancelling each other out, which the result correctly reports as dead even rather than picking a side.
Frequently asked questions
Can this score prove someone likes the other person more?+
No — it describes texting behaviour across four specific measures, not feelings. A slow replier with a demanding job and a fast replier with a flexible one can produce a lopsided score that has nothing to do with how much either person cares.
Why not just show all four numbers separately instead of combining them?+
A combined score is what makes the pattern readable at a glance; the individual weighted contributions are still shown alongside it precisely so the combination isn’t a black box.
Related terms
- Double-textingSending two or more messages in a row with no reply in between — a single run, however long, counts once.
- Who starts the conversationWhich person sends the first message of the day, tallied across every active day — one of the plainer signals of who’s reaching out.
- Reply wait timeHow long an opening message sits before anyone answers it — the number most people actually mean by "how fast do you reply".